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Can friends become lovers… Can lovers remain friends?

By On Mar 29 2009, 1:00 pm

The title of the post is my question to you:
Can friends become lovers…Can lovers remain friends?
Perhaps Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal sum it up best in one of my all time favorite movies ever: When Harry Met Sally.

Harry Burns: What I’m saying is – and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form – is that men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally Albright: That’s not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry Burns: No you don’t.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: No you don’t.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: You only think you do.
Sally Albright: You say I’m having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry Burns: No, what I’m saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: How do you know?
Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally Albright: So, you’re saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail ‘em too.
Sally Albright: What if THEY don’t want to have sex with YOU?
Harry Burns: Doesn’t matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally Albright: Well, I guess we’re not going to be friends then.
Harry Burns: I guess not.
Sally Albright: That’s too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.

What do you think? Can men and women have platonic friendships, or will the sex thing always get in the way. This is the basic premise of my print release, Photo Opportunity.

Can friends become lovers? Can lovers remain friends?

Daniel Tanner’s through with being loved like the proverbial brother. He intends to make his best friend, Amy Morgan, blaze with the same desire he feels for her. The plan? Initiate a series of escapades that will have Amy falling into his arms—and into his bed.

When her trusted buddy suddenly turns up the heat, Amy finds it impossible to resist his sexy advances. But as his best friend, she knows a thing or two about Daniel. While he may be charming and gorgeous, he’s also commitment phobic.

If she trusts her heart to him, she’s sure he’ll leave it—and their friendship—shattered in a million pieces.

Warning: Contains smoking hot love scenes between two best friends who can’t seem to keep their hands off each other.

Photo Opportunity releases in Print on the 31st of March, 2009.



6 Responses to “Can friends become lovers… Can lovers remain friends?”

  1. Vivian Arend says:

    I was friends with my hubby before we became anything more.

    But sex simmers constantly in the background… grin.

    I love Photo Op, and look forward to it’s paper release. Yeah!!!

  2. Julie Robinson says:

    Hi Jess,

    just saw your announcement on the loop. The other day, a d.j. on the radio was saying that the latest study shows that it’s now been proven that women fantasize about their male friends and/or office workers. We could have probably told the ones conducting the research the same thing for free. Just hand him a couple of romance novels with that theme. LOL

    I actually had selected Photo Op as the one I would hope to win in the ebook give away on this site. I didn’t win though, so I’v got to get it.

  3. Jess Dee says:

    Ah Viv – a real life friends to lovers romance. Sigh. Sooo romantic.

    LOL, Julie, great point. Hmm, men sure could learn a lot about women just by reading romance.
    Hope you enjoy Photo Op!


  4. Jess, love this question – I wrote a “friends to lovers” story too (out in a couple of weeks) and I wanted to write one because I lived it in real life, too! My husband and I were friends for years before we fell in love and in June we celebrate our 25th anniversary.

    Sometimes when a man and a woman are friends they’re in a situation where nothing more can come of it, say for example one or both of them are in a relationship with someone else. I’ve always had male friends, and there’s always a tiny little sexy undercurrent even if we both knew nothing was going to go any further than that. (Or maybe because we both knew that…hmmm.) But then…the timing worked out right for my husband and I and things did go further!

  5. JJ Petersen says:

    I am crazy about my friend who has a BF. She can do better than him. I think about her every minute though we spend quite a bit of time together. She is perfect for me—and I for her–though she doesn’t realize it. I am lost as to what to do. Tell her? Don’t tell her?

    • amy says:

      it may be a late suggestion but in case you haven’t told her already, tell her as soon as you can. you are convinced that you both are perfect for each other and you both spend a lot of time together. if she is a sensible person, she would not dismiss it without giving it a serious thought. and there’s a major possibility that she would choose you. trust me on this, when you realize that you love a person , you should not waste time thinking about whether you should tell that person or not. she deserves to know and you are more than justified in telling her.

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