By Anara Bella On Mar 26 2009, 7:00 pm
I don’t know if I’m coming or going.
I find myself using that expression a lot. Probably because I seem to constantly have days, or even weeks of days, where that’s exactly how I feel. The frustration builds to the point where I don’t know whether to pull my hair out or just end it all by running off the nearest cliff. Since neither scenario particularly appeals (I both value my life, and am kind of partial to my hair just the way it is, thankyouverymuch) I struggle to find ways to cope with the sheer busyness of my life.
I’m sure we all feel this way far more than we’d like. Family, friends, work, responsibilities, all conspire to eat up our time so that we don’t have any to spare. I know that this busyness I’m experiencing became even more apparent after I was first published and now that I’ve happily sold my third book I can see that it’s not going to change anytime soon.
Years ago, I remember published authors telling us aspiring unpubbed’s to enjoy the freedom we had at that moment. To spend our days learning the craft and writing as much as possible. They warned that things would change after we sold. There would be a lot more pressure and many more constraints on our time. I noted what they said but didn’t really think about it too much. Nor did I appreciate just how right they were.
Boy, do I know differently now. Ever since I sold my first book, it’s been a whirlwind of activity. Most of it fun, all of it interesting. I’ve had to learn new skills that encompass everything from building a website, to working with an editor, to dipping my toe in the promotion pool, to writing blogs. And somewhere in all of that I still need to find the time to write. It makes me tired just thinking about it. LOL
Despite it all, I’m truly grateful for the reason I find myself so busy. Having my books published and out there to be enjoyed by others is one of the greatest feelings ever and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
So, when I feel overwhelmed, like I don’t have the time to do everything, I take a deep breath and remember a quote from Bo Bennett—“Avoiding the phrase ‘I don’t have time…’, will soon help you to realize that you do have the time needed for just about anything you choose to accomplish in life.”
You know, as strange as it may seem, that really is the case. Somehow, the simple act of verbalizing that I have all the time I need to accomplish everything I want makes all the difference. I suspect it calms me down enough to tackle things in a logical way. It sure beats wasting my time and energy anxiously flitting from one thing to another in a frenzied whirlwind of unproductive craziness.
And since life isn’t going to get any less busy any time soon, I just keep repeating my new mantra—I have all the time I need. And you know what? I really do. =)
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