Long Distance Letters

By Allie.Boniface on March 10, 2010

Once upon a time, when I was still in college, I met a boy. Well, he went to a different college than I did – we met at a summer party by a bonfire, and that was that. I know what you’re thinking, but no, we never dated. Instead, we began this very odd and interesting friendship based completely on letters. Interestingly enough, we’ve shared our lives with each other for the last twenty years almost entirely on paper.

We’ve never lived in the same city, let alone the same state. We’ve led very different lives, filled with other relationships and other people. Yet after all this time, we’re still writing letters to each other. Strange? Yes. He’s been married and divorced. I’ve been married for almost nine years. We’ve gotten together for a couple of meals in the last two decades, but other than that, our relationship is strictly long-distance and strictly Platonic.

He pursued a career in the insurance industry, and I ended up in education. In many respects, we have absolutely nothing in common. We don’t listen to the same kind of music or enjoy the same kinds of leisure activities. We read different authors. We follow different sports teams. I love to travel. He loves his hometown. And yet there has always been a connection between us – maybe simply because we both love to read and write.

A couple of years ago, we abandoned the letter-writing and instead emailed and chatted on Facebook. Sure, it was nice to talk in real time. Nice to have almost-instant responses. Know what? It wasn’t the same. Something was missing – maybe the excitement of opening a mailbox and seeing a hand-addressed letter. Or maybe holding pages in your hand and reading words in the script of someone you’ve known for a long time.

Whatever the reason, a few months ago we decided to return to writing letters. Yes, it’s old fashioned. Yes, it means we only get to hear about the other person’s life every few weeks or so. Sometimes even months pass without a letter being exchanged – life gets in the way, you know. But there is something powerful about the wonderful reality of letters. Holding a letter – or a book! – in your hand, turning the pages and savoring black ink on white paper…there’s something magical about that experience.

And so I dedicated my latest release, Summer’s Song, to my long-distance friend. In fact, the hero is named and modeled after him, because after all this time, he deserves to be immortalized in print. This one’s for you, Damon. Happy writing.

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5 responses to “Long Distance Letters”

  1. Hi Allie,

    I enjoyed reading your story about your long friendship with a boy you met during college. I bet he’s thrilled to have your new release, Summer’s Song, dedicated to him.

    I think that’s great you both decided to return to writing letters instead of connecting quickly by email or on Facebook.

  2. What a great reminder of the power of words and hand-written letters. I love the quote “you can’t re-read a phone call.” It’s completely accurate.
    Love, Emily (from the original E-Team)

  3. I always wrote to my mother when I was in college. After she was diagnosed with cancer, I’d write on brightly colored paper in an attempt to cheer her up.

    After she died, I found all the letters carefully stored away in their original (brightly colored towards the end) envelopes.

    There’s a real appeal to letter writing – to the old-fashioned method of putting words down on paper. It’s wonderful that you found a friend who feels the same way, and that you dedicated your book to him!

  4. Marian, My mother still writes letters to me, and I love it! Obviously yours to her were a great treasure.

    Emily, What a lovely surprise to see your comment here! Hope you’re doing well :)

    DIane, It truly is more special than the instant nature of electronic technology, yes…

  5. Zahir shamsery says:

    Hi Allie,
    Comfortable reading, I enjoyed.
    Reading a script written by hand carries different amenable feelings.
    It is a great feeling that you won’t get on chat.
    Thanks,
    Zahir, Dhaka, Bangladesh.

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