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Why M/M Fascinates Us

By On Aug 10 2012, 12:35 am

Fantasy is fun. We imagine ourselves as the characters, vanquishing enemies or being swept off our feet by a romantic hero. Then there’s M/M romance. Why is it so compelling? Its primary audience is not gay men, but women.


I’m not sure I have a definitive answer, even though I write M/M romance. My theory is that it’s the ultimate fantasy. Two men, developing a relationship, sometimes in spite of themselves, interests us.

One of the most fascinating parts for me as a writer is the idea that the two characters in the romance are both men, and have the usual challenges that men have. Men in our culture are taught to be strong, authoritative, and not emotionally demonstrative. While the craggy Marlboro man can be an attractive romantic stereotype, it makes it more challenging when we want to write a romance with two men. Creating characters that aren’t thinly-disguised females is challenging, but when it’s done right, it can be fun to read.

What M/M romances have you read recently? What are your favorites?

Noon and Wilder

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12 Responses to “Why M/M Fascinates Us”

  1. Helen says:

    I stumbled across Lynn Hagen fairly recently, funny m/m romance with paranormal twist. Its interesting to see how the relationship dynamics work.

  2. Rachel Wilder says:

    I love reading about a sexy man, so getting two in a story is like a double helping of excitement.

  3. Laz says:

    We were just discussing the same thing on Goodreads.

  4. Thanks for including me, Laz! I appreciate it!

  5. Alongside enjoying your own fine works, I recently discovered Harper Fox. Good stuff!

  6. Norma says:

    I’ve become quite addicted to M/M erotic romance but at some point I had to watch some gay porn because I couldn’t quite picture the described sexual acts. Funny thing is, I like reading about M/M romance but I didn’t much like watching gay porn. I miss the romance factor and prefer the more attractive pictures in my imagination :-) . Same goes with F/M erotic romance by the way. At the moment I’m reading Jez Morrow. My favorite genre is paranormal M/M erotic romance. Joely Skye. Amber Kell, J.l.Langley to name a few.

    • Hi, Norma! I’m glad you stopped by. Like you, I’m selective about what porn I like to watch. I sometimes find watching it without sounds to be erotic, because it conveys the images without the silly over-theatrical sounds.

      I’m glad you stopped by!

  7. Stacy says:

    I actually read a lot of m/m. I think for me at first it was because there were so few strong female main characters. I was at the point of “ugh, I can’t read another woe is me!” I had read a few menage m/m/f and tried m/m, I’ve been reading it ever since. A few favs are Jet Mykes, K.A. Mitchell, and Z.A. Maxfield. I’ve been also read Burning Bright and thought it was great! You totally got that Sasha was a guy no misunderstandings there!

    • Thank you so much for the compliment, Stacy! I’m glad you enjoyed it. We worked hard to get Sasha “right.”

      I know what you mean about strong female characters. I got frustrated by the “snarky” female that replaced the “whiny” ones; I hope that we’ll have some more “real” and full-dimensional characters soon.

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